Tuesday, 31 March 2015

The incredible story of Marina Chapman

The child raised my monkeys & sold into a brothel


Marina Chapman’s life story is one that is so extreme, so inconceivable, that many find it difficult to believe.
Marina Chapman at age 17
Kidnapped from her family at a young age, abandoned in the perilous Colombian jungle, befriended by a troop of reticent primates, and now, decades later, revealed in a best-selling memoir – Marina’s story stands as a radical case of adaptation and survival.
In fact, Marina says she was first reluctant to share her experience with the world because of its extremity, but her daughter, Vanessa James, would not allow the story to fade into oblivion. With persistent coaxing, Marina, along with her daughter Vanessa and writer Lynne Barrett-Lee, worked diligently to piece together a foggy memoir that, once completed, would ignite public controversy and shock readers worldwide.

The Day Everything Changed

Shortly before her fifth birthday, Marina recalls playing in her family’s vegetable garden, which, to her now evanescing memory, was likely in Venezuela or Colombia. She says she became aware of two adults behind her, and before she knew it she was taken away, with sounds of crying children being her last memory before she blacked out.
The next thing she knew she was being driven deep into the Colombian rainforest, where she was then dumped and abandoned. It soon became clear to Marina that no one was coming for her, and that finding some sort of sanctuary was absolutely crucial to her survival.
After countless hours of weeping and wandering the treacherous jungle terrain, Marina stumbled upon a group of small monkeys. She explains how she became completely infatuated by their antics, even feeling envious of their tight-knit bond. However, it was clear the monkeys had no interest in the stray human.

Monkey See, Monkey Do

White faced capuchins; Marina was eventually tolerated by the family of monkeys she was observing,
White faced capuchins; Marina’s saving grace.
At one point, Marina recalls the moment when things changed between her and the group of primates. After falling severely ill from tamarind food poisoning, Marina says that one of the elderly monkeys, which she now calls “grandpa,” guided her to muddy water. Marina drank the water, vomited, and eventually recovered.
From this moment onwards, Marina says she felt welcomed by the monkeys, and began observing their instinctual behaviour in order to gain some sort of survival skills.  How to climb trees, what was safe to eat, how to clean herself, all of these habits she picked up on quickly.
Thankfully, she soon discovered that if she stood underneath monkeys carrying armfuls of bananas, they would inevitably drop a couple, and if she was quick enough she could grab them for herself. Marina inescapingly found herself assimilating into life in the wild, and as the years went on, who she was before all of this was steadily becoming a distant memory.

A New Family

Marina explains that if it weren’t for the monkeys, which were thought to be capuchins, she most likely wouldn’t have survived. Capuchins are known to be well-cultured towards humans, so it makes sense that they would eventually accept Marina into their territory.
But was Marina actually “raised” by these monkeys? Not entirely, she explains.
They were just tolerating at first. They don’t really love you. One day one of the younger ones landed on my shoulders, and if you’ve never been hugged in your life, and this animal climbs over your shoulders and puts their hands on your face, I tell you it’s the nicest touch,” Marina told the Guardian.
The media wanted to paint a different picture of her story, however, which Marina explains is why many find it difficult to believe. The subtitle of her book boasts, “The Incredible True Story Of A Child Raised By Monkeys,” something she now says is not quite right. Even at five years old she was much bigger than the monkeys. She scavenged food from them, but they didn’t provide for her. But what they did do was invite her into their extended family, something to which Marina feels she is ever indebted.

Life In The Jungle

Days in the jungle were spent thinking about food, Marina says – what to eat, where to find it, and how to get it.
Other than that, she says her favourite pastime was sitting in the trees being groomed by the monkeys. “It gives you goosebumps when they go through your hair and eat the things they find in it. They do it so gently. It feels like a good head massage.”
But even with her acclimatization to the jungle life, Marina yearned for human contact. Hunters, armed with machetes and guns, started occasionally passing close by, the sight of which would frighten Marina at first. But then one day, she decided to approach them.
Naked and walking on all fours, Marina cried for the men to help her. But what happened next was far from salvation.

No Place To Call Home

While then men did bring Marina back to civilzation, it was a far cry from a pleasant new beginning.
Marina was sold into a brothel, where she was regularly beaten and forced to do chores, although she denies any involvement in prostitution. Eventually, Marina gathered courage and made her escape into the streets of Cúcuta, where she bonded with other homeless children.
During this time she survived like all the homeless children survived, through fraud and theft. One trick, she explains, was to creep up on young women wearing short skirts, pull down their underwear, then run off with their bags, which they would usually drop in shock.
Eventually, a friend told Marina she could get off the streets by working for food and lodgings as a domestic. Marina found a family who agreed to take her on and who then renamed her Rosalba. But as it turned out, living with the family proved miserable. They were notorious criminals, she explains, who treated her horribly.

Marina’s Guardian Angel

Marina’s rescuer, Maruja, who sent her to live with one of her children far away in Bogotá. Photograph: Courtesy Marina Chapman
Marina’s rescuer, Maruja, who sent her to live with one of her children far away in Bogotá. Photograph: Courtesy Marina Chapman
But with the help of a benevolent neighbour, a mother of nine named Maruja, Marina was taken and flown to live with one of Maruja’s children, named Maria, far away in Bogotá. Marina was also given her very first gift – a box tied with a yellow ribbon containing a dress made of pale blue satin, a hair clip, white socks, and a pair of shiny white shoes. Marina says the dress was the most beautiful thing she’d ever seen.
Eventually she was adopted by Maria, and was given the chance to choose her own name. She called herself Luz Marina – Luz after a Colombian beauty queen.
Because Marina’s adoptive family had done well enough in the textile industry, they were able to send her to a place where she could eventually build a life for herself, far across the world to a North England metropolitan borough named Bradford.
Today, Marina is still living in England as a wife and grandmother, but the transition into civilized culture wasn’t easy, she says.
“When I came out of the jungle, I had to learn how to sit in a chair, how to open doors, sanitation, all the things I’d never done. I’m still really bad in terms of sitting down and behaving like anybody else. I watch people eating their food and I copy them. I felt I’d been a bad person as a child, and that stays with you. Because you were brought up in a brothel house, you feel bad about it. You feel you shouldn’t mention it to anybody. Your family adopt you as a child and you think if you tell them, they will chuck you out. I was frightened people would try to exorcise me because they think you’ve got something vile in your life.”
But as the years went by, Marina found herself sinking back into a way of life that had been taken away from her at a young age. Today, Marina says she has done well in understanding and accepting how her early experiences have come to shape the woman she is today.

Broken Memories & Public Concerns

Marina Chapman surrounded by her family near her Bradford home. Photograph: Carl Bromwich
Marina Chapman surrounded by her family near her Bradford home. Photograph: Carl Bromwich
Unfortunately, Marina says that her memory of her life before the kidnap is practically non-existent, which has caused some concern for publishing companies and readers who find it difficult to trust in the validity of her extraordinary recollection.
I keep working at it, but there is nothing. I’ve tried to imagine [my life before the kidnap] so many times,” Marina says.
This broken memory indeed poses some questions for readers, challenging what we know about the complexities of human memory. Were aspects of Marina’s story a figment of a childhood coping mechanism, created to deal with her severe emotional traumas? Could she possibly be suffering from a case of false memory syndrome? Or is Marina’s account entirely true?
She says the media played a big part in why some people don’t fully trust the narrative, exaggerating important details, such as her being “raised by monkeys.” But nevertheless, Marina and her family stand by her story, explaining that there is no financial intention, especially considering all of the proceeds from the book are being donated to a charity for abandoned children.
We’re just telling our family story, and it doesn’t matter what people think really,” Vanessa says.
This conclusion is ultimately left up to the reader. At the very least, Marina’s memoir takes us on a remarkable journey – one that teaches us about overcoming the impossible and finding gratitude in the things we so often take for granted.
You may find Marina’s story, The Girl With No Name, on Amazon Kindle.

source: Jeff Roberts 

Monday, 23 March 2015

Benefits of learning a language



How many languages do you speak?
What do you think the benefits are of speaking more than one language?

19 everyday expressions that came from Aesop's fables

19 everyday expressions that came from Aesop's fables



Aesop: we’ve all heard the name, and most of us are familiar with at least a few of his fables with the anthropomorphized animals facing extremely unrealistic yet entertaining dilemmas.

There is no concrete evidence that the ancient Greek moralist and former slave we call Aesop ever wrote down any of his stories (in fact, it was several centuries after Aesop’s purported death that the first collection of his fables appeared), nor is there even proof that he actually existed at all. But the wisdom and warnings offered up by the morals of his many popular tales have survived more than two millennia, weaseling their way into the English language as common everyday expressions. Here are a handful of Aesop’s most popular contributions that we still use today, along with a taste of the stories that spawned them:

1. “QUALITY, NOT QUANTITY.”—FROM “THE LIONESS AND THE VIXEN”

A mother fox and lioness were boasting to each other about their young when the fox pointed out that where she gave birth to a litter of cubs each time, the lioness had only one. “But that one is a lion,” responded the lioness. Checkmate.

2. “HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY.”—FROM THE TALE “MERCURY AND THE WOODSMAN”

A woodsman lost his axe in a river and Mercury (the one with the wings on his shoes) appeared to retrieve it. Mercury offered the woodsman an axe made of silver and another made of gold before offering the man his own and, since the man admitted that the first two were not his, he was given all three axes as a reward. When a friend heard this story, he dropped his own axe into the same river. Smart. Mercury appeared again but this time the friend claimed the golden axe as his own, which disgusted the god so much that he returned all three tools back to the bottom of the river, leaving the man empty-handed.

3. “PRIDE COMES BEFORE A FALL.”—FROM “THE EAGLE AND THE COCKERELS”

Two cocks were fighting for control of a roost. When it was over, the loser of the battle went and hid himself in a dark corner while the winner climbed atop the barn and began to crow where he was promptly snatched up by a hungry eagle. The emo rooster was cock of the walk thereafter despite his excessive use of eyeliner.

4. “REVENGE IS A TWO-EDGED SWORD.”—FROM “THE FARMER AND THE FOX”

A farmer was fed up with a fox prowling his hen house at night and so set out for revenge. He trapped the fox and tied some tinder to his tail which he then set ablaze. In a panic, the fox set off at a run and, making his way through the farmer’s corn field, burned the farmer’s entire harvest to the ground.

5. “DON’T MAKE MUCH ADO ABOUT NOTHING,” OR “DON’T MAKE A MOUNTAIN OUT OF A MOLEHILL.”—FROM “THE MOUNTAIN IN LABOR”.

It would seem that even Shakespeare gave props to Aesop. In this tale, a mountain was groaning and appeared ready to burst and so attracted a great crowd, all of them anticipating some incredible tragedy. Finally, at the peak of this activity, from out of the mound surfaced a mouse, and for some reason everyone was completely disappointed despite the most likely alternative having been a volcanic eruption.

6. “IT’S EASY TO KICK A MAN WHEN HE’S DOWN.”—FROM “THE DOGS AND THE FOX”.

A fox came across some dogs gnawing on a lion skin and said (paraphrased) “that lion would kill you all if it wasn’t dead already.”

7. TO TAKE THE “LION’S SHARE.”—FROM “THE LION, THE FOX, AND THE ASS”

A lion, a fox, and an ass went hunting together and set to divide the spoils of their efforts between them. First, the ass divided the goods into three even piles, at which point the lion attacked and devoured him, then asked the fox to divide the food. The fox, taking a lesson from the ass, gave the lion nearly all of the game and set aside a meager portion for himself, which pleased the lion, who then allowed the fox to live. Another lesson gleaned from this tale? "Happy is the man who learns from the misfortunes of others."

8. “DON’T COUNT YOUR CHICKENS BEFORE THEY ARE HATCHED.”—FROM “THE MILKMAID AND HER PAIL”

A farmer’s daughter was musing about the value of the milk she carried in the pail atop her head and began planning to use the profits to buy enough eggs to start a poultry farm. Eventually, her wild mind led her to ponder using the spoils of her poultry farm to buy a fancy gown for the fair. As the girl imagined how the boys would flock to her in her sparkling new duds she tossed her hair, sending the pail of milk and all of her dreams to the dirt below.

9. “NECESSITY IS THE MOTHER OF INVENTION.”—FROM “THE CROW AND THE PITCHER”

A thirsty crow happened upon a tall pitcher, inside of which was a small quantity of water that he could not reach. The crow, apparently a genius bird, gathered a crop of stones and dropped them one by one into the pitcher until the water level had was high enough for him to drink. Ahh.

10. “LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP.”—FROM “THE FOX AND THE GOAT”

A fox found himself trapped in a well and so he coaxed a goat down with him into the water below. When the goat reached the bottom of the well the fox climbed on his back and out of his prison, leaving the goat to suffer his fate alone.

11. “A BIRD IN THE HAND IS WORTH TWO IN THE BUSH.”—FROM “THE HAWK AND THE NIGHTINGALE”

A nightingale was caught in the talons of a hawk and pled for his life, saying that the hawk ought to let him go and pursue much larger birds that might have a better shot at slaking his hunger. “I should indeed have lost my senses,” said the hawk, “If I should let go food ready to my hand, for the sake of pursuing birds which are not yet even within sight.” And he ate him.

12. “ONE GOOD TURN DESERVES ANOTHER.”—FROM “THE SERPENT AND THE EAGLE”

A snake and an eagle were locked in a life-and-death battle when a countryman came upon them and freed the eagle from the serpent’s grasp. As retribution, the snake spat venom into the man’s drinking horn and, as he went to drink, the grateful eagle knocked the poisoned drink from his hand and onto the ground below. The man was probably just ticked about his drink, though, if you think about it. Unless he spoke eagle.

13. “FAIR WEATHER FRIENDS ARE NOT MUCH WORTH.”—FROM “THE SWALLOW AND THE CROW”

In the story, a swallow and crow were arguing over who had the superior plumage when the crow ended the discussion by pointing out that, though the swallow’s feathers were pretty, his kept him from freezing during the winter. The crow then dropped the mic and walked off the stage.

14. TO HAVE “SOUR GRAPES”.—FROM “THE FOX AND THE GRAPES”

A fox came across a bunch of grapes hanging from a trellis high above but, try as he might, he just couldn’t reach them. As he gave up on the fruit and began to walk away, he said to himself, “I thought those grapes were ripe, but I see now they are quite sour.” It's easy to disparage something you can't attain.

15. “SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE.”—FROM “THE HARE AND THE TORTOISE”

Stop me if you’ve heard this one...You have? So you know the turtle wins the race despite the hare's incredible speed? Thought so. Moving on, then.

16. “BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER.”—FROM “THE FARMER AND THE STORK”

When a flock of cranes descended on a farmer’s newly seeded field, he cast a net with the intention of trapping and killing them all. In the process, the farmer gathered a single stork along with the cranes, who naturally pleaded for his life, citing his noble character and pointing out that his plumage was different from his cohorts. The farmer, however, was not moved and, since the stork had seen fit to take up with the scoundrel cranes, he did him in with the other birds all the same.

17. “NIP EVIL IN THE BUD.”—FROM “THE THIEF AND HIS MOTHER”

When a woman failed to discipline her son for stealing a book from a schoolmate, he continued to up the ante and was eventually caught and hung. As the woman cried about her son’s fate, a neighbor basically rubbed it in her face by pointing out that if she’d put a stop to his thieving ways long before he never would have been executed.

18. “A MAN IS KNOWN BY THE COMPANY HE KEEPS.”—FROM “THE ASS AND HIS PURCHASER”

A man looking to purchase an ass took one home on a trial basis and released him in the pasture with his other donkeys. When the new addition took an instant liking to the laziest ass of the bunch, the farmer yoked him up and led him straight back to the vendor, saying that he expected the new donkey would probably just turn out as worthless as his choice of companion.

19. “OUT OF THE FRYING PAN, INTO THE FIRE.”—FROM “THE STAG AND THE LION”

No surprise ending here—a stag took refuge in a cave to hide from a pack of dogs that were on his trail only to find something much worse inside: a lion. Not quite sure how anyone can take anything from this particular fable except maybe ‘Keep yourself out of strange caves if you don’t want to get eaten by a lion.’ Still, it’s pretty sound advice.

source: http://mentalfloss.com/article/58530/19-everyday-expressions-came-aesop